I'm frustrated with The Dating Game. I know I'm not unique, but part of my frustration is that we don't talk about it. Everyone is playing the game. We're all looking for a mate. It's a basic human need--we want to be loved and validated. Why does playing the game necessitate denial that I am playing it?
I feel lonely. I want to get married. I would like to do that soon, and by soon I don't mean tomorrow. I mean that I want to try being in a relationship that is moving in that direction; I want to feel like I'm making progress.
Why is there shame attached to such an admission? I feel that in expressing these feelings I am consenting to my own pathetic and pitiable state. A stigma: I must be desperate indeed to vocalize that I want a husband.
Not only is this ridiculous, it also leads to the idea that the desire is somehow wrong or pathetic or pitiable. That's just not true! It's natural, right, and good. What I want most in life is to be part of a happy, normal, slightly crazy, and loving family. I want to get married. I want to have children. That's what I want, and I feel really good about that.
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